We all have a sin we justify. We tell ourselves it’s not that big of a deal. We ask forgiveness for it once in a while but we just kind of poo-poo it away. Here’s my confession: I swear and use foul language.
As a young teen, it was cool right. I felt like it gave me a certain power. It made me feel like an adult. It made me sound tough, though it weakened my vocabulary. I’ve learned that the use of these words keep me from using a true expression of what I feel. These words heighten my anger, and they don’t bring glory to God. They damage the soul of my children who hear them the most.
For the ﬁrst time ever I ﬁnally have true conviction that this is a hurtful and damaging sin in my life. Yesterday my sweet son was playing outside with his little sister and used foul language that I will not repeat here. I looked out the window as he said it again. What?! I was in shock. I called him inside and gave him his punishment. He took it so humbly. He asked God to forgive Him, and further asked God to help him not say hurtful words.
The seed of conviction began. Wide awake at 3 AM, unable to sleep, I tried to pray still wide awake. I turned to the Word where I had left off in Eph chapter 3.
Then I come to Eph 4:
17 With the Lord’s authority I say this: Live no longer as the Gentiles do, for they are hopelessly confused. 18 Their minds are full of darkness; they wander far from the life God gives because they have closed their minds and hardened their hearts against him. 19 They have no sense of shame. They live for lustful pleasure and eagerly practice every kind of impurity.
20 But that isn’t what you learned about Christ. 21 Since you have heard about Jesus and have learned the truth that comes from him, 22 throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception. 23 Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. 24 Put on your new nature, created to be like God—truly righteous and holy.
Ephesians 4:17-24 NLT
I thought I try to do that I was feeling ok. Until…
25 So stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbors the truth, for we are all parts of the same body. 26 And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.”[d] Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 for anger gives a foothold to the devil.
28 If you are a thief, quit stealing. Instead, use your hands for good hard work, and then give generously to others in need. 29 Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.
30 And do not bring sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit by the way you live. Remember, he has identified you as his own,[e] guaranteeing that you will be saved on the day of redemption.
31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior.
Ephesians 4:25-31 NLT
Foul language is listed with being a liar and thief. And it brings sorrow to God’s Holy Spirit!!! I’ve studied Ephesians many times. How have I missed this? How have I not felt this level on conviction before? I realized it was due to my son. His quickness to take discipline and ask for God’s forgiveness, plus seeing myself be mirrored in such an ugly way – this was causing this new level of clarity and conviction.
Confession: Lord, I am sorry for the foul and abusive language I have expressed and exposed the children you given to me. I have brought you sorrow and I am sorry. Please forgive me for my anger and bitterness that is truly the root of the foul language. Heal my soul and mind. Give me new words. I love you Lord.
Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.
Ephesians 4:31-32 NLT
My prayer for myself and my home will be that we can have a home of peace. It has to start with my own peace. Getting rid of the sin in my life, so that I can be kind, tenderhearted, and quick to forgive and to be more Christ-like